you should try having my children.
Seriously.
I love em, but holy crap, I have never met ANYONE who has had as many potty issues as my children. I DREAD the day that I have to potty train EB. If I could, I would hire it out in less time than you can say "potty". In fact I might even consider hiring a nanny to come stay at our house to do it.... if only we had a room to have her stay in. I would probably be willing to go into debt for one just for this period of time.
Most of you know that Goober had major issues potty training. He peed his pants during the day until last year. The kid is 6 mind you. He still can't get through the night without wetting his pants, and after many a day spent putting sheets in the washer and dryer and having his sheets stained slightly yellow I finally resorted to "Good nights" which are for older kids who have accidents. I know that the pediatricians and what not advise you not to use pull ups and good nights, but when your sanity is on the line after doing load after load of unneeded laundry when it is already one of the most repetitive tasks that a mom does... good nights can be a godsend.
Missy was really great to potty train. In fact she was done and doing better at getting to the potty than Goober was a year ago. I thanked my lucky stars.
Then this last month Missy has started to decided to NOT pee in the potty. And to play in the potty sometimes when she has to poop. I took her to the pediatrician to make sure she didn't have a bladder infection. Nope. Not that. Yet she still continues to pee all over everything. She is 4.
Does anyone know of a way to convince God to make these things go away? It's not for lack of trying, I know that. I have tried everything under the sun. With both kids.
Since she has been having issues with this, apparently Goober has decided it's OK if he has them to. He has been having more "accidents" in the past couple of weeks too.
Today, Missy has gone through two pairs of pants already... I've told her she can't have anymore because I'm so tired of doing laundry and the last "accident" was on a big blanket of ours that is really hard to clean. After trying to talk to her about it (she is not very good at listening, even when it's just one sentence) I look over and Goobers pants are wet too.
WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?!?!
Working for a living is looking really good right about now...
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and just now... not more than 5 min after writing that EB exploded his diaper all over my pants. lovely.
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I am so sorry that you are dealing with potty issues! That really sucks!
And don't feel bad about Missy...The Girl is 4 and we still have accidents every once and a while...mainly at night because she sleeps too deeply and doesn't wake up, but sometimes she has them during the day because she just didn't feel like getting up and going to the potty. So when those "accidents" happen, I make her clean them up. Yes, I have taught her how to use my little green clean machine. Because I am mean like that.
Oh, and my cousin had trouble with night accidents until she was 12 or so. She eventually grew out of it. She had to make sure that she didn't drink ANYTHING after 7 in the evening and she had to make sure that she went to the bathroom right before bedtime. And then 10 minutes after she got into bed, she would get up and try again. It worked for her.
But anyway, I really am sorry that you are dealing with all that crap. :)
lol thanks, I'm feeling a bit better now that I blubbered at my mom for a bit.
Missy hasn't ever gone through the night.... but that I expect. It actually runs in the family.... skipped me, but it's still there.
I think it may be a power struggle thing. There are loads of other issues going on right now too, back talking, ingoring etc etc. I think I may just need to become MEAN mom. We will see though.
Sorry about the rant... mostly I was home alone with these three tyrants and needed deparately to vent. :P
Oh, April. I'm so sorry. It's a nightmare to potty train in the first place, but then to have to deal with it for three+ more years, and with BOTH? Yeah, I think either my kids would be dead or I would be in an insane asylum, rocking back and forth, saying something about "pee on sheets". You are a better woman than I am.
One thing: have you tried making your kids clean up the mess? My doctor said that while I was training Jakob and he was pooping in his undies. And I was like, let a 2 1/2 year-old CLEAN his UNDIES? Can I do that? Well, I never did with him, but we did it with Brock, and he learned REALLY fast that he didn't like that consequence. I don't know if it would have the same effect on pee accidents. Also, have you tried a cold shower to "clean" them off afterwards? Brock did a little regression about a month after he was trained, and on the third pee accident I did that to him. Worked like a charm. And maybe it's mean, but it gets the message through; at least, it did on him.
Or maybe they just need to grow out of it.
Good luck. (Incidentally, I need to start training Troy. UGH.)
Oh, geez, lady. I'm so sorry! I don't have any advice for you (though I wish I could solve your problem with a wave of a magic wand) but I hope it gets better. And soon.
It's too bad that most mom's get left with most of the child rearing. It makes us tired and frazzled. I think it 's one of the most demanding and tough jobs (mentally and otherwise)there is! You are a GREAT MOM, Aprillium! Your kids push you and push you to see where that "line" is (it's their job as kids). As a parent, it falls to you to provide that "line" for the sake of your kids' feelings of security. Remember that YOU are in charge -- you don't need to constantly explain to them why you are doing stuff. Sometimes it's good enough that it's "because Mom said!" Dad's can help tremendously because their love is usually more conditional (they're not eroded by the kids' constant wheedling) and kids must tow the line. Keep up the good work, you "mean ol' mom", you!
Dude, that SUCKS. I'm so sorry. There is nothing worse than cleaning up bodily fluids. Seriously. Maybe you should make them go without underwear or pants for a day and see how they like it. That's how I initially potty-train my kids. They are just free as the wind down there. For some reason, they don't like peeing in the air on themselves. They're okay peeing in their pants, but not out in the open. I don't know if that makes sense. And Ben did the cold shower on Sadie when she regressed, and it worked like a charm. Good luck, Apes. You are a really good mom. Don't let these potty issues convince you otherwise.
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