Maybe someone else can do better...

I don't know what to do anymore...

Here is tonight's scenario: Go through bedtime routine, Turbo gets a bath then I read a chapter of Harry Potter to the kids. Once that is done Missy hops in the bath and Turbo goes to bed. When Missy is done with her bath Goober has the option of getting in the shower or hanging out until I get Missy's hair combed and then off to bed for both of them.

All three kids share a bedroom. Not ideal, but it's what we have. We ask the kids to be quiet due to Turbo already being asleep and then head to our room.

Here we hope that everyone goes to sleep without too much trouble...

Soon we hear voices, so I go into their room and remove Goober (because he was talking the loudest) and tell Missy that it was not okay to be out of her bed (she was on Goobers bed and they were loudly pretending something.) Tell Goober to lay on couch in the hall (this is the only option we have for removing one of them outside of putting them in our room which would then leave us with no where to go).

Goober proceeds to complain about the blanket I gave him. So I tell him to pick another one, there are several already in the hallway. I go back to my room, but first turn on the Sentsy because I know that the dark really bugs my kids.

Soon after closing the door I hear something hitting the couch.

Jer goes out and asks Goober why he is hitting the couch, to which Goober refuses to respond. I ask Goober if he wants to be in trouble, to which he says no. I tell him that his actions say otherwise. He complains about the blanket again. Again we tell him to pick another one if he wants. We tell him to stop hitting the couch, and warn him that he will be in trouble if we have to come back out and then we go back to our room.

...

Goober starts hitting the couch again.

Both Jer and I go out. Both of us are significantly pissed by now, as this type of thing is not a rare occurrence. I had hope that an adjustment of his medication would help and it did seem to for a bit, but not long.

Jer informs Goober he is grounded from the train track toy (he is already grounded from video games etc for 3 more weeks due to his insistence to misbehave even after being grounded from them for a week etc....), I tell him he is grounded from TV. I also tell him that I don't believe him when he says he doesn't want to be in trouble because his actions say otherwise. We go back to our room.

...

Goober starts hitting the couch again.

Jer and I discuss and decide that Goober needs to go in the backyard for a little while (when he insists on misbehaving sometimes this works, he can come back in when he is ready to behave) and spanking him only ends up with a lot of yelling on his part and he STILL insists on being aggravating.  Goober states that going outside is fun on the way out (I'm sure trying to goad Jer and I).

Jer takes him outside.

I had kind of hoped it would be raining, it wasn't.

After a bit they come back inside and Goober lays down on the couch again.

...

That is where we are right now.

I'm so tired of this. I really don't know what to do. It wouldn't be such a big deal if it didn't happen so often (with slight variations). I'm so worried that he will end up not caring about anything in life, at the same time I need to teach him that his actions have consequences. I don't know why he wants us mad at him and it breaks my heart at the same time because I feel like a failure as a parent. I love him, but at the same time I don't want him when he acts like this and want to hand him off to someone else to raise. I feel incredibly guilty for feeling that way towards my own child, but again I feel like a failure so maybe someone else could do better with him? I have shed many tears over this.

I called a family councilor today to try to make an appointment but he was out to lunch and hasn't called back yet.

Like life isn't hard enough right now without this too.

I hate this.