So today Goober went out to the bus stop.
Oh, the dreaded bus stop.
If you remember there are three kids that insist on teasing Goober while they wait. Goober has done a pretty good job of ignoring them so far, but it does bug him. He tells me about it. And for a six year old to remember to tell me about it when he gets home from school, after seven hours of other stuff, says something to me.
Today I simply stood at the door and watched the kids at the bus stop. The ones that are being little turds noticed and started making actions etc towards me with loads of attitude. Goober ran over to me as I went out and got the mail and told me "mom, those are the kids that call me ______"
I simply walked over to the bus stop, looked at them and said I would be finding out who their parents are. (They have, after all been warned by Jer a couple of weeks ago) And I promptly turned around and started walking.
I'm pretty sure I ruffled them, since they started to yell to me "for what?!" (my reply was "you know what.") and other flustered "I know I'm in trouble" type things.
I hate being the parent kids hate. I don't want to talk to parents.
I want to move, if only to get my son away from these bullies. Honestly, I know it could be worse, they could tease him throughout the day, but it still pisses me off.
9 comments:
Yes, speaking with the parents of bullies can be rough. However, not all of them become instantly violent. Just explain you need their help or any suggestions they are willing to offer about how you should deal with the problem. Then, tell them what you heard and saw. My experiences have shown me usually, the parents of the bully will handle the rest.
I just ran into your blog. Cute, and this post was funny - although probably not funny to you! Sorry that your 6 year old has to deal with this. Unfortunately bullies are everywhere. Hopefully they know they're on notice now so something will change. Do they bug him on the bus too? If so, you now have an easier avenue to work. Follow through with finding out who the parents are so the kids don't think they are idle threats. And when you do find out, be friendly and introduce yourself so the kids will know you know them, ha ha. I did this once and the kid never bothered my daughter again.{meniacal laughter!}
Hope you have a good day!
Wow! Laura gave some great advice. I suspect hers will work better than mine.
Come move into my neighborhood. We're nice.
Bullying kids are horrible to deal with. Especially when you have parents who don't care how their children behave.
I like Laura's advice too. I would have just squashed the kids. But I am impatient like that. :)
Ugh, I hate this situation. I would also find out who the parents are, and just let them know of the situation. Jakob had a bully taking his lunch, and I called his mom and just said, "I just want to make you aware that McMeany has taken Jakob's lunch at school, and it's happened more than once." I didn't make suggestions on how she should raise her kid or anything (because if someone were to do something like that to me I'd get mad), but she was very understanding and said she'd talk to him about it. It hasn't happened since.
Good luck. Oh, and you can move over here by us. We're nice, too. Well, except for McMeany, but he doesn't ride the same bus. :)
ya, talked to the parents already... both seemed understanding and willing to talk to their kids. Hopefully that puts an end to it. :) thanks for all the advice and understanding! :)
Good luck with the situation at hand. Unfortunately, there are lots of parents who, as FluffyChicky said, don't seem to care how their children behave. Hopefully, this is not the case with these parents. Try friendliness first. You can always get more firm, or even nasty, later. I like your ideas about "the next step" (your "official" neighbors)if this doesn't work. Moving doesn't always solve the problem, though I know you're disappointed with your new neighborhood. Moving may be misperceived by your children as "running away from" your problems (i.e. Gpa J); a self-defeating behavior in real life circumstances. Hang in there and try not to end up in jail for strangling someone. :P
Apes, I'm glad you talked to the parents. Enough is enough. It is important to follow-through. I think it's better to intervene than have a problem that lasts all year. I had these two girls who told these lies about me when I was in fifth grade and made the entire fifth grade hate me. I had zero friends for an entire school year. I kind of wish my mom had intervened. That was scarring. It still hurts, after all of these years...
O.K. Most schools have a bus policy that doesn't tolerate bullying at the bus stop. You've talked to the kids, talked to the parents, next step is to talk to the principal of the school. The kids can get banned from the bus. Natural consequences are good things.
Standing up for your son is the best thing you can do for him right now. He needs you to advocate for him at this stage in his life. Keep it up! Your'e doing a fantastic job.
Heidi S.
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