I'm sure all of you at one time or another have been in a group of people and can't get a word in edgewise. Sometimes everyone is talking over each other.
I hate these situations. And I happen to like groups of people in most cases. Granted, not to group of rioting revelers, but still you know what I mean.
I know that most of the time when people talk over each other it's because they don't feel they can get "center stage" any other way. That they are having a hard time being heard. Sometimes the only people heard are the ones talking over everyone else. I find this sad.
Sad mainly because of what it does to those who are being talked over.
It distinctly tells those people "I don't give a flying goats fart about you or what you have to say."
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So true. I also learned that with people interrupting-if they interrupt you, they don't care what you had to say, either.
I really, really try not to do that. I find myself doing it sometimes, and then I get really annoyed with myself. I don't do it in a group of people, though. I usually listen quietly to everyone else yelling. But I usually "overtalk" in one-on-one conversations. And I know that it's soo annoying. So I'm trying to reign it in.
Yes. However, the following is some "food for thought":
You might be interested to know people who fear they will forget what they have to say if they wait for "their turn to talk" also interupt or talk over people.
One solution, for these people, is to have a pencil and paper ready to write those thoughts down during a conversation. Unfortunately, I've noticed other people seem to have an aversion to aproaching someone who takes notes during a conversation. Hence, the problem.
My point is the people I meantioned above TRUELY CARE about what is being said and feel a great extreme desire to take part in the conversation.
Ya I usually brush it off if one person does it most of the time or even if it's on occasion. The reason I brought it up was because I had two different people interupt me at two different times during the same sentence. Needless to say I didn't finish my sentence or my thought... an no body seemed to notice.
Honestly, it put me in tears. Mainly because the people who did this are supposed to be friends though lately I have felt more like I'm tolerated by them than that I'm liked. So basically it hit a tender spot.
Oh sweetie! I'm so sorry to hear that.
I love you and I'm happy to hear what you have to say. I often learn new things from you.
XO from your sis;
Oooh, Jody made a good point. When she said that sometimes people don't want to forget what they wanted to say, I realized that's why I overtalk sometimes. How interesting.
Yeah, I'm one of those. My memory has the capacity of a flying goat's fart, so I suddenly say what I'm thinking way too often. Sorry if I've ever interrupted you. But also, maybe some people are just better conversationalists one on one than in groups. I know I am, so there must be others. =/
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