So when I gave Goober's friend Bee the nickname of "Bee" for this blog I had no idea how prophetic that would be.
Bee is an only child. Not that I fault her for that, just that it leaves her prone to not liking younger siblings of friends much, and it also leaves her more prone to thinking the whole world revolves around her.
Man that girl can give some stings.
Recently Goober has started to come home upset more and more often. Bee has been saying mean things to him. Now, I understand kids do this sometimes, and sometimes I don't get the whole story (like what Goober may have done to induce such behavior), but saying things like "I hate you" and "I don't want to play with you, and neither does Ken" (Ken is another friend).
The other day Goober and Bee decided to go to Bee's house from our house. Goober wanted to ride his bike. Jer was the one home at the moment, so he okayed it and Goober proceeded to get on his coat etc... by the time he got outside Bee was sitting on his bike. Goober told her HE wanted to ride his bike and she just looked at him. Jer then stepped in and told Bee that she did not ask and told her to get off of Goobers bike. Weeeeelllll, this made Bee mad. So she then yelled at Goober "I don't want to play with you anymore!!!!" and ran home (because she was mad a Jer). Goober was then upset because his "friend" didn't want to play with him anymore.
She tends to lie as well, saying things such as: "Ken can't play, he has a black eye", and when Ken, Goober, Missy My, and Bee are playing together they decided to go to Bee's house and she proceeds to lie and say that only one friend is allowed over. Then Ken promptly goes and Goober is upset cause they don't want to play with him.
I, as a mother, have NO CLUE how to deal with this. As far as I'm concerned Bee can go jump off a cliff for the way she sometimes treats my kids (which is becoming more often). I've been trying to comfort Goober when things like this happen, saying that good friends don't do things like that, and that we will find some good new friends in our new house.
But I'm not sure if I should bring this up with her mother or not. I know that eventually this kind of behavior is going to bite Bee back, and HARD. Maybe her mom can help her avoid that? Her mom is pretty down to earth and I don't think she would be offended if I pointed these things out to her..... but I don't know if I should step in or not....
Grrrr..... motherhood!!
5 comments:
I have a friend with a child like that. He treats my kids the same way, and they choose not to play with him very often anymore. I choose not to say anything to my friend about her son, because they have a child centered home! Her child is an only child and of course, perfect! Good luck! I feel your pain!
Is it possible to arrange playdates with other kids so Goob doesn't have to play with Bee anymore? If I were you, I would cut her right out of his life (if possible, I know it isn't always that simple). She sounds like trouble, and I would be willing to bet that her parents will not be open to criticism about her. Yeesh, I would hate to see her as a teenager!
I am SO not looking forward to having to deal with stuff like this. Abrie is very outgoing, but also very sensitive. *sigh* It's hard.
Wow, I have no idea what to say. One idea: If the mom says, "Let's arrange a play date", like after you're done moving, then I'd say, "You know, that would be great, but Bee isn't very nice to Goober"...something like that. But seeing as how you're moving, I would just tell Goober that you guys will find new friends at your new house, friends that will actually be nice.
Yeah, I agree with Nat...avoid playing with her until you move, and hope for nicer kids at the new house. Carsen has a friend at church that frustrates him a lot, and we just don't ever ask her to play and it seems to work out. She is actually been nicer to him since we have been avoiding her a little more...I also think if you have a opportunity to talk to the mom it would be ok, but I also think she would not be too receptive to hear about her monstery kid...
That is such a hard situation. I know that if someone came to me to talk about the way Dylan was behaving to their kid, I would be really grateful. But some mothers would be upset, for sure. That whole Mother Bear instinct. I'd avoid the Bee. And we're going to call you guys to come over and play, as soon as Dylan is done being grounded. He's being a winner in school. :(
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